It's Day 5 of FIL's visit, and as far as we know he will be leaving on Day 7. At least that's what Mr Ayak believes.
However, FIL asked me if I would check the weather forecast on my laptop for the next 5 days to see if any rain was due, because that would mean no work on the land. So does that mean that he could be here for another 5 days? When I had chance to ask Mr A what he thought (this time when I was absolutely certain that FIL was not listening through keyholes) he said he was pretty sure it would be Friday. "After all" said Mr A, "why do you think I'm working with him on the land? I want to get the work finished as quickly as possible". In that case, I said, get back down there and work all night if necessary! Mr Ayak laughed and said, don't worry, there's not much left to do and it will be finished tomorrow.
I'm making such a huge effort to be nice to FIL, because I can see how happy it makes Mr Ayak. He visibly relaxes and smiles at me when I make attempts to start up a conversation with FIL. FIL refuses to look at me whilst I'm talking, and I only get "yes/no" answers, which actually leaves me feeling very uncomfortable. I am one of those people who likes to be face to face and making eye contact when I'm talking with someone, and it's normal for me to have more of a two-way conversation ....so this behaviour is quite unnerving.
I don't think Mr Ayak notices this because he is so pre-occupied with the fact that I'm making an effort at conversation, that he can't see my discomfort...and of course I'm not going to tell him how I feel...what's the point?
However, in spite of all this, I am coping with the visit much better than I thought I would when he arrived. I think that my decision to change my approach was definitely a wise one. I haven't had to back down or compromise my principals, and I actually feel more in control as a result.
(I still can't wait to see the back of him though!)