...to let off steam. So don't feel obliged to read any further than the next paragraph, which is answering @eloh's questions from my last post.
@eloh...you asked about womens' rights in Turkey, in relation to divorce. I can't explain this accurately, because I get different stories from different people...and the laws are constantly changing. But as I understand it, after divorce the wife isn't entitled to half of everything, as she would be in other countries. In fact I'm pretty sure that she will only keep what is hers...and I think she has one house in her name. I believe she would have to apply to the courts for anything else. In the case of the death of the man, it would seem that the assets are divided up amongst the family, and the wife gets a percentage..and from what I gather, this percentage is fairly small. FIL isn't being generous in signing over the house to Mr Ayak. He is just making sure that his wife doesn't get more than he feels she is entitled to. Now please bear in mind that what I've just said could be inaccurate...I've just pieced together bits of information and tried to make sense of it.
If FIL does sign over the house to Mr A, it is Mr A's intention to either sign it over to me, or to sell it and buy another property in my name.
Incidentally, Mr A heard from his cousin, that FIL had a considerable sum of money in a joint bank account with MIL, which was the proceeds from selling his car, and to be used towards buying a new one. It would seem that MIL has cleared the account....yay! Good for her! This may or may not be true, as families love to gossip...but I hope it is!
I was up early with the dogs this morning, and Mr A got up shortly after. I could hear FIL up and about and Mr A asked me to get some breakfast for them as they were going off to work on the land at the bottom of the village. Does FİL like menemen, I asked Mr A? Yes he does, was the reply. So I cooked it and set the table. I called them in from the garden and Mr A came in and sat down. Does FIL know breakfast is ready, I asked? Yes, he said, but he doesn't want any. And Mr A had no idea why and suggested I go and call him. I went out and told him breakfast was ready and I had cooked menemen for them. He replied that he doesn't do breakfast. So...more food wasted.
Earlier I did have a quiet word with Mr A about using the air-con. The sitting room last night was stiflingly hot..it was unnecessary to have it switched on when we can't afford the bills. Mr A said that FIL hadn't asked for it to be switched on, but that Mr A thought he was cold so he was being kind. OK fair enough. I can't imagine that FIL heard the conversation because we were in the bedroom, unless he was listening at the door...which I frankly wouldn't put past him. So maybe this is the reason for him refusing anything I offer. In fact Mr A offered him tea that I'd made, and he said he wouldn't drink it because I might charge him for it!
Mr A is torn...one minute he is angry because he can clearly see how his father treated me last September when Mr A wasn't here...but the next minute he is defending his father and telling me I'm in the wrong.
Of course, I can clearly see what's happening here. FIL is trying to drive a wedge between Mr A and I. They've set off to work...and I've been sitting here in tears. Not because I'm upset...but tears of frustration and anger. Apart from that, I have raging toothache and my back aches.
So..like I said...this post is mainly for me. Writing it down just gets it all out and makes me feel a bit better.
It's a lovely day...I've decided to hop on the bus into Milas this morning...just to get away from it all for a few hours.