...that's me! And Mr Ayak. We try to be tough about things....well I encourage him and he encourages me, so we don't get completely walked all over, or fail to muster up the courage to say what we really feel. But sometimes it's difficult.
The old woman next door...the one with a donkey, 2 cows, 3 goats and chickens..is I think taking advantage of my good nature. She often asks for one onion, one potato, one tomato, etc..so of course if I have what she wants I give it to her. I never get anything back.
If I go down to the shop in the village to get bread, she sees me and asks me to get some for her. I'm happy to do this. A couple of weeks ago, she said she didn't have any money to pay for it, so I just gave her the bread and said "don't worry about it". However since then she hasn't even offered to pay for the bread. And I'm just too soft to stop buying it for her. Bread's cheap enough so it's not a big problem, but part of me is feeling a bit cross because I don't have the courage to ask for the money. I know I should because she's probably better off than I am at the moment.
I was over at the hotel today. When I arrived, one of the hotel customers was using Mr Ayak's laptop to download his photos onto a memory stick. This is now a common occurrence..not just the downloading of photos, but a constant stream of people logging on to check their emails, Facebook or whatever. I had said to Mr A before now that he perhaps should only offer the use of the laptop to customers of the Hamam, and that anyone else should be charged. After all they would have to pay in an internet cafe wouldn't they? But Mr A is too soft, he can't say no when someone asks. Anyway shortly before I left today, and after about 6 or 7 more hotel guests had used the laptop...free of charge...it suddenly developed a virus. It's now gone off to be repaired by a computer engineer at goodness knows what cost. And who's going to pay for the repair? Well Mr A of course. Had he started charging for the use of it in the first place, he would have at least some money set aside for repairs.
In a way I'm glad it's happened, because Mr A says that he is now not going to allow anyone else to use the laptop. But I don't know whether to believe him...because someone will ask..and he won't be able to say no.
I went straight into Milas this afternoon to get my hair cut. I last had it cut about 6 weeks ago, and at the same time I had the colour done. I liked the colour at the time, but after less than two weeks it had faded badly and looked awful. I should have had the courage to go back to the hairdresser and complain. But I didn't. I bought a DIY hair colour from the supermarket and did it myself. And actually it turned out far better than the hairdresser's attempts, and is still looking good 6 weeks later. Fortunately the colour was on special offer and also had two packs in one, so I bought a couple, which will last me quite some time.
So I was kind of dreading going to the hairdresser, because I was sure he would ask about the colour. It's clearly a different shade, so I was sure he would notice. And naturally I intended to tell him that I did it myself because I was unhappy with the job he did.
I even considered going to a completely different hairdresser to get my hair cut because I was embarrassed at facing him. But he does cut well, so off I went. Well...can you believe it...he just said "the colour has lasted well". And I just said "yes". How pathetic is that? Now if I continue as planned to colour my own hair, I'm going to face this problem again the next time I go for a haircut. I should just tell him the truth, but I'm too soft and hate offending people.
It's really time to toughen up...learn to say no...and develop enough courage to say what I really mean!