Thursday, 30 September 2010
The in-laws have been here since Sunday. Judging by the amount of clothes they brought with them, I was assuming they planned to stay for months. However, they are leaving tonight.
I would normally be quite pleased about this but this visit has been a real eye-opener for me. Mr A and I have been having a difficult time recently. He is I'm afraid typical of most Turkish men, in that he doesn't find it easy to sit and discuss our problems, something which I feel is essential to keeping a marriage on track. He's a "bury his head in the sand" kind of person and thinks if we just don't talk about it, the problems will just disappear and everything will be fine.
It was never the intention for the in-laws to be aware that anything was wrong, but over the past couple of evenings, things have cropped up in conversation, and they are now completely in the picture. Very surprisingly...FIL has been an excellent marriage guidance counsellor. He has proved to be very diplomatic...he has in fact lectured Mr Ayak strongly, but without appearing to take sides. He has also told me that he and MIL are very fond of me, consider me to be very much part of their family, and that the only reason they gave us this house, was because of me. Simply because they trust and respect me.
I am totally and utterly amazed at this revelation. It's taken almost 13 years to reach this point...but better late than never!
Mr Ayak appears to have taken on board everything his father has said, and the improvements in his attitude are already showing.
I think the business will finally close within the next few days. Around a dozen English customers arrived at the hotel this week. They weren't booked there...they were all transferred from another hotel that was in a bad state and they all complained. We have managed to book almost every one of them for hamam treatments. There are no more guests due to arrive. Those staying there now are the last intake before the hotel closes.
Our plan for earning money from now on through the winter, is for Mr Ayak to buy stock of Mesir Macunu and to travel around the villages selling it from the car. He did this a couple of years ago but as he didn't have a car at the time, had to involve another man with a vehicle, who literally ate all the profits!
Mesir Macanu is particularly popular with people in villages. Mr A knows he can sell it, and he will keep expenditure down to a minimum because we will plan his route every day, and there are 1000s of villages in the Mugla area that can be covered without costing too much petrol.
He was in negotiations a couple of months ago with a very large hotel in Didim to rent their spa centre for next year. He also found a partner from Holland, who is a tour guide, lives and works in Turkey, and has money to invest. However, after much discussion this week...in which we included FIL..we have agreed that if we take on something of this size, we won't have so much control. It's really just too big a leap from the business this year.
So we intend to look around for something of a similar size to the current business, and plan to work together as we have done over the past few weeks...because it seems to work.
Of course...this being Turkey...all these plans could change. We'll just wait and see how it goes.
Finally....I am spending most of today at home, trying to catch up with chores...and sleep! I am also going to try and catch up with reading all my favourite blogs, but due to lack of time, I may not be able to comment. So please forgive me if I don't. I'm sure normal service will be resumed pretty soon!