I was reading a post on another blog recently about Blog Followers, and the way in which they come and go. And judging by the comments on that particular blog, it would seem that sometimes people take it a bit too seriously. In other words if someone stops following their blog, they see it is a personal snub. I do recall the excitement I felt when I first started blogging, when all of a sudden people started to comment, then added themselves to my list, and even though I may have been disappointed in the early days when some disappeared, I tried not to take it personally.
Of course I'm aware that the numbers of followers fluctuate from time to time. I have a vague idea that the numbers of followers on my blog are around the 65 mark. Sometimes people stop following, but then others arrive to take their place. I've done the same thing myself. Occasionally one realises that it's impossible to find the time to follow every blog one would like to, so some inevitably fall by the wayside.
There are also other reasons for ceasing to follow certain blogs. I do find myself losing interest in blogs that seem to be all about giveaways (I don't get this at all...maybe someone would explain)...and also those that have added ads. Oh I don't mind a few ads here and there, but some bloggers are actually writing posts which are specifically aimed at advertising a particular product. Of course this is just personal choice, but I prefer to read about peoples' lives and experiences, and the stories they tell, sometimes funny, sometimes sad...with the odd photo or video thrown in for good measure. Does anyone actually click on the ads on blogs? I'd be interested to know...I never have.
We eventually end up with a pretty loyal band of followers on our blogs. Those who you know will comment on most of your posts, and whose opinions are so welcome and valued...and these become friendships too.
This topic also got me thinking about friendships, and in particular internet friendships. They also come and go. Much like real life friendships I guess. Although I think I would prefer to call them acquaintanceships rather than friendships. .
I have made what I consider to be some very good friends via the internet, and some of them I've had the pleasure of meeting in real life. For example, Bombshellicious, who I met on my recent trip to England. We get on so well and I know we will be friends for life.
However, I recently lost all contact with someone I considered to be a good friend who I met through an internet forum about 3 years ago. We had very regular contact, almost daily, when a couple of months ago the emails started to dry up. I found myself writing to her and asking if she was ok, and was sorry to have not heard from her for a while, whilst wondering whether I had said anything to offend her. I had a couple of responses, in which the reason she gave for not being in touch was that she was spending very little time on the internet. I thought this was a pretty good reason, so left it for a while. At the beginning of the month I emailed her again...no response. Then again just before Christmas to extend the seasons greetings. And...nothing. Which leaves me feeling that I must somehow have offended her. I've asked outright if this is the case but I've had no explanation. I know I should just let it go but I hate not knowing...it feels like unfinished business.
Real friends last forever don't they? Even if you lose touch with a real friend for a while, you know they are still there. One of you makes contact and you just pick up where you left off. But you are never left feeling that there are loose ends that need tying up or questions that need answers.
Well I hope you all had an enjoyable Christmas Day. Our's was much like any other day here, except that I did cook a roast dinner and made a huge trifle. I made Mr A pull a cracker and wear a silly hat for 10 minutes...but then we just switched off Christmas and got back to normal!
Incidentally I've put comment moderation back on my blog, because I've noticed a lot of blogs being spammed at the moment and it's only a matter of time before it happens here.