Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.-- Dr. Seuss
It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for something you are not.-- Andre Gide
Be what you are. This is the first step toward becoming better than you are.-- Julius Charles Hare
It is the chiefest point of happiness that a man is willing to be what he is.-- Desiderius Erasmus
For the past few days we've had storms and an awful lot of rain. And I've spent most of the time in bed. Why? For no other reason than I wanted to.
It got me thinking about how I've spent my life trying to be all things to all people. Don't we all do this sometimes? We try to be what others expect us to be, rather than just being ourselves. We pretend sometimes to know more than we do,because we don't want to be judged.
How many times do you do something that you really don't want to do, simply because someone asks you to? We worry too much about what others think of us. If we say no, we feel guilty, so we will put ourselves in difficult or uncomfortable situations because we don't want to appear selfish or unreasonable.
I seem to have reached a point in my life where I can actually please myself. Not all the time...because I still have this in-built desire to please others...but I can just be myself without having to justify it.
Having had two previous marriages where I felt like I was constantly apologising for being me, it's a relief to be married now to someone who doesn't judge me or expect me to be anything other than myself. Who doesn't, for example, expect a meal on the table and will just accept my saying I can't be bothered to cook today.
It is refreshing to live in a country where people do generally accept you for what you are. There's very little pretense. What you see is what you get. When you try to conform and fit into some societal standards, you are possibly abandoning part of the real you.
Life would be so much easier if we could all just be ourselves wouldn't it?