My friend Gwen travelled over from Selçuk yesterday to stay for a few days. Poor woman got caught in the bad storms that we had yesterday and arrived looking like a drowned rat. I am still cooking on one tiny gas bottle and the microwave...great fun...not!
Update on Mr A: His job finished on Friday, but as expected he is being made to wait for his salary. For how long...who knows? Frustrating but totally expected. He can't return home until he's paid, so is just having to sit it out, and continuing to run up his hotel bill.....my patience is beginning to wear a little thin.
Now for the "aaarrrghhh" bit: My in-laws turned up this morning...clearly having driven through the night from Ankara. No warning...no phone call.
I welcomed them of course...through gritted teeth...introduced them to Gwen and said she was from Selçuk and had come over to stay. They then proceeded to take their bags into the spare room and put them there, even though Gwen was still using it. Clearly claiming their territory.
Naturally Gwen felt uncomfortable and told me she would pack her things and go back to Selçuk. And obviously I felt upset and uncomfortable about this too. But if I had been her I would probably have done the same thing. So I gave her breakfast and she set off. She said "nice to have met you" and "goodbye" to the in-laws and FIL said to me "I hope your friend isn't leaving because we're here"....aaargh!
Is it me? I know there is a cultural difference. I know it's perfectly acceptable for Turkish families to turn up whenever they want to. But isn't it bloody rude not to phone ahead? Isn't it even more bloody rude to move your belongings into a bedroom still being used by another guest?
FIL had already phoned me last week to say they would be coming here in June or July...so why would they decide to turn up today without warning? I phoned Mr A thinking maybe he knew they were coming but had forgotten to tell me...but he was under the same impression as me...that they were due June or July. He can't actually understand why I'm upset about it...but then again they are his parents...and if this behaviour is not considered to be rude in Turkey, then what else can I say?
I walked down to the village bus stop with Gwen...even though I am upset, she is absolutely fine about it. She can see for herself what I have to put up with.
Returning to the house, not only have they claimed the bedroom, but MIL is now asleep on the sofa in the sitting room. I have now taken up residence in our bedroom along with the dogs (I can't leave them to have the run of the house and garden because the in-laws find them a nuisance).
Maybe I'm making a fuss over nothing?