Mr A's very elderly grandmother died three weeks ago. She looked after him from a very early age, after his mother left when Mr A was just two weeks old. No-one ever talks about Mr A's mother or the reason why she left. From my experiences of my FIL, I somehow think that the blame may lie with him. It must have been an act of desperation for a mother to leave a two week old baby with his father.
Time moved on. FIL remarried and Mr A's stepmother had two children, who Mr A adores. He has a very good relationship with them and his stepmother. But it is his grandmother that he has always referred to as his Mum, because he lived with her and his grandfather for most of his childhood.
He is still distraught. He came home late last night and was so upset that it was difficult to console him. I think he is suffering a great deal of guilt because he hadn't seen his "Mum" for 18 months. And three weeks ago when she had been taken into hospital, and while he was making the long journey to Ankara to see her, she died before he had chance to say goodbye. I think it will take him a long time to recover.
His grandfather is now also very old and frail and Mr A doesn't want to leave it so long before seeing him again.
He has just phoned to say that FIL will be bringing grandfather here for a visit.. We have no idea when this will be or for how long. Maybe just a few days, but who knows?
It's not a problem for me to welcome his grandfather here. Although I only met him and grandmother once for a few days some years ago, they showed me so much love and made me feel very much part of their family.
My problem is with FIL. On his last visit he was very nasty to me and actually told me he didn't consider me part of this family.
It's going to be very difficult. Mr A is not going to be here, other than late evening until early morning, so it will be up to me to entertain grandfather and FIL. FIL's English is perfect so naturally he will communicate with me in my language. Grandfather knows no English, so will be unaware of what is being said. I have a feeling FIL will do all he can to make me feel uncomfortable and give the wrong impression of me to grandfather.
Maybe I'm being over concerned or even paranoid about this visit, but frankly I'm absolutely dreading it.