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Tuesday, 21 August 2012

Disappearing Bloggers

We all have our favourite blogs.  I have, like most of you, my reading list which I check from time to time.

There are blogs that I read and almost always leave a comment.  These are the ones who regularly comment on my blog, and I like to return the favour.  But sometimes I just read and don't comment..usually because the topic is something that I don't really understand or on which I don't have an opinion , so feel that I'm not in a position to comment.   Others that I read and enjoy but can't think of a suitable comment to make.

Occasionally I start to follow a new blog and like to give encouragement by sharing the link with others.  I'll follow and comment for some time until I realise that this particular blogger hasn't taken the time to check out the blogs of their followers, or make any effort to support them.  This leaves me feeling a little disappointed, so I find myself drifting away from them.

Every so often a blogger that I have eagerly followed and enjoyed for some time just disappears without any explanation.   Some bloggers decide for one reason or another that they cannot blog anymore, and will usually leave a post to this effect.  But it's the ones that just stop that I'm curious about.

I used to follow auntiegwensdiary.  Such an amusing lady.  Her posts often made me laugh out loud.  The last time she posted was in January HERE.   And then...nothing.  I wonder why she stopped blogging.  I hope it's not because something dreadful has happened in her life.  I hope it's simply because she just got fed up with blogging.  I'd like to know if everything's OK with her though.

Are you curious about the bloggers who disappear?

30 comments:

  1. Auntie Gwen initially had computer troubles which is why she stopped abruptly. I guess once you have stopped you find out whether you miss it or nor. AG was a blog I loved too, and Dust Bunny Hostage,I miss her. I've been thinking about stopping or at least slowing down.

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    1. KV: I wondered if you might know what had happened to AG. I often feel like stopping. At the moment I'm finding it difficult to think of interesting things to write about. I think if we do stop for any length of time, it's probably quite hard to pick it up again.

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  2. I too miss AG's blogs - the antics of her lovely family and busy life made me laugh so much and brightened up my days. Your blog Ayak is the one I always check first, and I'd miss you hugely if you decide to go `off air`. Your life is so different from mine, but it feels like we share similar approaches and attitudes to living those different lives and I benefit from your insights - I particularly love your tolerance towards Mr A and his various enterprises!

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    1. Hi Rosemary. Yes AG is really missed. Thankyou for your lovely comment. As far as Mr A is concerned, I'm not always tolerant..he would confirm that!

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  3. ...and sometimes one hasn't got enough hours in the day to read all the blogs one would like to follow, so sorry for having been an unfaithful follower of late... ;)

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    1. Very true Heiko...particularly in your case. And no need to apologise, I haven't followed your blog as often as I'd like to recently, although we still catch up on Facebook of course.

      AND...huge congratulations on the book. I hope it does really well xxx

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  4. Ayak
    I love your blog. We spend 5 weeks a year in Turkey as tourists and it is fascinating to hear your side of it. I would love to hear more about the people and activities of your village - what animals they have, what they grow, how many people live in a house, when their days start and end.

    My husband and I, both retired, usually take a Saga deal in the winter and then come in May and travel around by train and bus to more remote areas. We once came and stayed on three organic farms with TaTuTa and that was fascinating. Everywhere we go in Turkey we meet such kindness. we speak about 100 words of Turkish and that with a bit of German usually gets us by.

    Keep it up!

    Sally

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    1. Thankyou Sally. I'm so pleased you enjoy my blog. It's nice to hear from people who enjoy travelling around this country rather than not venturing further than their hotel! The Turkish people are indeed very kind and welcoming.

      Maybe next time you visit, if you are in my area, you can call in and see the village for yourself. You would be most welcome x

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  5. Oh noooo...... Ayak don't stop writing like you said you were thinking.. I enjoy reading your Blog and what is going on with you and Mr. A....and your village life. I hope to get to Bodrum next spring and maybe meet up with you. :-)

    I too miss some Blogs......but I guess that is what happens.

    Take care and keep on writing. XXXX

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    1. Thankyou Erica. Oh I do hope we get a chance to meet up next Spring. will look forward to it.

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  6. I agree about new blogs....where there is no contact, not necessarily by replying to every comment but by taking up themes from the comments, then it's just an ego trip and I lose interest.
    Even better is one I started following recently who hardly ever deigns to acknowledge the comments - except on losing followers recently at which point the blogger is all over the blogosphere commenting on other blogs!
    I enjoy the comments on my blog...and learn a lot from them too.

    I too wonder what the author of a blog I liked which has disappeared is doing, how they are....

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    1. I agree Fly. I also learn a lot from the comments on my blog, and I really appreciate people taking the time to comment. It's sometimes a little disappointing when one leaves comments on blogs and they are not acknowledged. I always try to reply individually, because I don't think it's too much effort to do so.

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  7. Hi Ayak,

    Your life and experiences in Turkey is fascinating and makes me want to visit. Hopefully I will find some time to start from the beginning and read it all. The way you face setbacks with a smile is an inspiration!

    Cheers,
    SK

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    1. Hi SK and a warm welcome to my blog. Thankyou for your lovely comment. Oh I think it would be a mammoth task to start from the beginning...good luck with that!!

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  8. I'd miss your blog Ayak - don't stop. It's just the August blues, when the crisper air appears you'll be bouncing with ideas again. I'm also slowing down an I've only been going 7 months. When it's so hot, my brain doesn't fire on all cylinders.

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    1. I definitely think this heat has a lot to do with it BtoB. I'll keep plodding on and hope the cooler weather will inspire me again.

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  9. Yes, I used to follow this one craft blog and then she just stopped posting. No explanation. She had a lOt of followers. Now for two years I have wondered if she is ok.

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    1. It does make you curious doesn't it Kelleyn?

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  10. Hello Ayak,

    Thanks for your blog post - and your blog, of course as well! I am an on-and-off reader-lurker here, always interested to see what you and Mr. A are up to in my spare (very spare) time.

    It is funny you should choose to post this now, as I have just had a long blog-hiatus during and after my Father's death. As I slipped into my pre-Dad's-death funk, I tried to communicate what was happening to me to my audience for just the reasons you touch on here...and felt very guilty the whole time I was gone (2 months) for starting a process and not being able, mentally, to get back to it. For me, I blog to keep up with my personal commitment to writing - and "processing" the vagaries of my own cross-cultural marriage...it is something that has helped me a lot personally.

    I agree with Heiko - during my academic year it is nearly impossible to keep up with all of my favorite blogs - not to mention think of a comment that is worthwhile to leave, as you point out. As for responding to those that do comment, I do agree, and do my best to catch the comments that aren't eaten by the Wordpress spam bot!

    Please keep blogging, though I am not a super-regular reader, I do dip in, and would miss your presence,

    Thanks,

    Liz

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    1. Hi Liz and welcome. Yes Heiko is right. It's not always easy to keep up with blogs when there is so much going on in real life. There are quite a few blogs that I just dip in to from time to time, not necessarily feeling the need to comment.

      I can understand how you must have felt after your father passed away. It's really not easy to blog when you are experiencing personal difficulties. Blogging for me is therapeutic. Sometimes I feel like I'm posting a load of old rubbish...but it helps me!

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  11. I don't have a blog, I'm too busy reading everyone else's. I may leave comments from time to time but do not expect to establish a personal relationship with each and every blogger I follow. Sometimes bloggers will stop blogging for whatever reason, and that's the way it goes. But I do appreciate being told when a blog is going to be mothballed.

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    1. Hi Joan. Thankyou for your comment. It's actually interesting to get views from people who just follow and don't blog. I think perhaps there's less of a "personal relationship" being established in this case.

      I have found some really good friends through blogging, which is a pleasant surprise. But also the reason I started blogging was really for myself, and I never expected it to develop the way it has, and that people areactually interested in what I have to say.

      You do feel a kind of obligation towards those people who take the time to read or comment, so I think if I were to give up, I'd have to let them know.

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  12. It is disappointing when a favourite blogger disappears without any explanation.
    I hope people haven't given up on me!
    Maggie X

    Nuts in May

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    1. Certainly not Maggie. You have a loyal band of followers and you have explained why you may not be blogging for a while. We'll all be there waiting until you return.

      I hope things are getting better for you..lots of love xx

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  13. Some interesting thoughts here, Ayak. I think some of my followers may be wondering where I've got to, but like you, I'm short on inspiration at the moment. I too find it hard to stay with blogs where my comments aren't replied to or reciprocated on my blog - too one-way for me. So far only one of the blogs I follow Has simply stopped and yes, I too wonder what happened and how things are for the blogger concerned.

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    1. It's strange how we all have different feelings about blogs and bloggers Perpetua. One of the biggest enjoyments for me is the friends I have made, which I think is the same for you. But of course, we are all different and blogging means different things to different people. xx

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  14. I think we have it easy with our blog as there are two of us writing it. Usually one of us will have an idea for a post. Hilary works on a total of three blogs, though one of them is more of a personal journal.
    I know I am often guilty of not commenting on the blogs I follow. Sometimes I just can't think of anything to add and sometimes Blogspot eats my comments, then I get cross with it!

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    1. Ashley, there have been problems for some time between Blogger and Wordpress, making it difficult to leave comments. I can't remember how many times I've written a long comment, clicked to post it, and it just disappears. Very annoying. It seems to be working OK at the moment. But perhaps I shouldn't tempt fate by mentioning it!

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  15. Hi Ayak, I couldn't read this post and not comment. I know you followed my blog for a little while and I really appreciated your comments. I still read your blog from time to time and I enjoy visiting every 6 weeks or so and reading all the posts since my last visit. I really admire your lifestyle and the way you cope with it. We Istanbul expats just seem like a load of moaning minnies when compared to you and the obstacles you face on a daily basis. I stopped blogging gradually as the challenges of bringing up 2 kids with very little support meant I simply didn't have time. I also stopped blogging around the time I went back to work and I think blogging whilst at home with the kids was a very valuable way for me to connect with other people and to socialise albeit online. When I started working again that need lessened. Have a great time in England!

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    1. Hi siobhan...thankyou, and it's lovely to see you here again. I can certainly understand that blogging would be a bit difficult with two children to contend with as well as working. I hope you are well, and thankyou for continuing to follow my blog from time to time. It's much appreciated xx

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