Men can be infuriating. I know it's not just Mr A, because I also have two brothers, and friends married to men who are similar. They ask our advice...they listen...then don't follow it.
Whenever Mr A undertakes a new project he asks my advice. He appears to listen to my opinion...even agreeing with me. Then he does something entirely different.
Remember the shelves? We have more shelves than necessary in the house and when I went to England in December I expressly asked Mr A not to put up any more. While I was there, he phoned me to say he was moving the phone and modem. I had already moved them a week or so before I left, to a more convenient location, which also necessitated moving heavy furniture, so that the phone was sitting nicely next to a comfy armchair.
He said he was going to put a shelf on the wall to accommodate the ugly black electric generator (which was sensibly hidden behind said comfy armchair), the phone and the modem. I asked him not to. I almost begged him to leave them where they were. Next day he sent me a photo on Facebook, of the shelf containing the generator, modem and phone. I asked him to put everything back where it was...he didn't.
When I returned home I almost laughed hysterically at the shelf, which was so high up on the wall that one would have to stand on a chair to use the phone. Eventually a week or so later, everything was returned to it's previous place...although the bloody shelf is still there!
Mr A has been "landscaping" the garden for several weeks now. Every day he asks for my opinion on where certain things ought to be, where to build fences and steps, what size should they be and what materials should he use. Each time he asks and I give my opinion, he promptly does something different.
I suggested some steps down to the lower garden...not too wide or too big, just sufficient to walk down safely. He agreed. But what has he done? He has started to build steps that are so big that they are taking up practically half the width of the garden. I could see what he was doing when he measured out the area. I tried desperately to stop him, but he just carried on.
I don't know why I didn't think to use some reverse psychology. I should have told him to build enormous steps, then maybe he would have built small ones. Who knows?
Apologies to any men reading, who are NOT like this. But ladies, please tell me, is it a man thing? Do you have the same problems?